Monday, September 25, 2006

The day to day...

Things are starting to work themselves out at home. We have finally put in the hardwood floor in our den/sunroom. We only purchased the floor 2 years ago. No one has ever accused us of being quick. But I must say it looks really awesome. I will post some pics tomorrow after our new furniture arrives. I am settling in a little to my roll as stay at home mom. THANK YOU all you moms for the words of wisdom--it helped tremendously. I have come to understand that this is the new normal. My life pre-Minow is gone. There are elements I will be able to bring with me, but for the most part, it is gone and I must make a new life. I must create a new routine, accepting that I am not the only one who has a say in what that rountine might look like. I certainly feel different today than I did last week. Acceptance really does change the lens at which you use to look at things.

My world now seems rosy and full of possiblity. I have a blank slate and am no longer a slave to the activities that controlled me before. I still have to find a balance, as I am still haunted by the 50lbs that I want to lose. I certainly am not as obssessed about it as I was, but I am ready to get back on track. I miss exercising and eating right. I need to really work on that aspect of my life. Being a parent is awesome and I must say Minow is amazing. His smiles lights up the room and makes it absolutely impossible to stay depressed or in a bad mood for very long.

The end of this week marks our one month home and I am a little worried about the whole post-placement thing. The packet we received from our agency says that post-placement reports are due at 3mos, 6mos and 12mos. But the agency website/email group says that they are due at 1mos, 3mos and 6mos. I know that we, as a family, have to submit reports at 3mos, 6mos and 12mos, but I thought that our homestudy agency is suppose to do reports at 1mos, 3mos and 6mos. I am waiting to hear back from our placing agency so that I can schedule something with my homestudy agency. I was looking through our adoption paperwork and the post-placement agreement that our homestudy agency submitted says 3mos, 6mos and 12mos. UMMMM....

We are also waiting to hear about when we can start our next adoption. We plan to adopt a baby girl from Ethiopia using the same agency. As they have a bit of a waiting list for infants we want to start ASAP. We at some point would like to adopt a harder to place child, but we feel strongly about maintaining birth order--we want Minow to remain the oldest child. He is our first son and we really want him to remain the oldest. I feel like there are lots of things up in the air, but it is awesome and I wouldn't trade a moment of it for anything. Parenthood rocks.

6 comments:

sarah said...

I am so happy you are feeling better. Some sort of routine really does help, I also thinking getting out of the house (like a walk in the park) worked wonders for me when Supergirl was tiny. I am excited to hear about adoption #2. I will be emailing you soon as I have a thousand travel questions :)
Mostly about cost. Talk to you later,
Sarah

darci said...

hey, so glad to hear you're feeling better. You're never 'alone' in feeling crazy, exhausted, overwhelmed, or unfulfilled..those times hit us all. I find even if I don't get enough sunshine on my face I am so much more susceptible to just feeling 'cabin fever'. :) I'm so glad you got thru that week..just hang in there if it hits again and know that it WILL pass. enjoy your time with your adorable little guy. darci :)

Bek said...

Glad things are a little better.

WOW! You got floors done? That is impressive. As for the exercize and eating well...now is the time to reestablish that habit. IT doesn't get easier......

You can do it.

Good luck w/ #2....:-)

5KidMom said...

"Parenthood rocks."

So it does, my friend! Keep smiling. 8^)

caringforkids said...

Hi Dawn. This is my first post on your blog, but I have been reading it since close to the beginning. Like the others who left comments, I am so glad to hear that you are feeling better than you were when you wrote your last posts. I am not yet a parent, but I can say that it does seem that your feelings are totally normal. You can get through this rough adjustment. Just take a look at that little precious angel of yours when you are feeling down. Such a glimpse can re-charge you for your tasks ahead. I'll be adopting within the next couple of years and will be doing it as a single parent with a very demanding career (outside of parenthood), so I am sure that I will have some considerable adjustment issues too. All parents seem to go through that, no matter if they are first-timers or seasoned veterans. Perhaps you can take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. Parenthood is rough sure, but as you say "it rocks!"


-Angela

Anonymous said...

We, too, were a bit boggled by the post-placement thing. Didn't help that I found conflicting requirements in our agency literature! Our first one is tomorrow. Here's what I understand: Reports with your homestudy agency at 1, 3, and 6 months. Family reports at 3, 6, and 12 months then every year thereafter.

-MP2